Korean Traditional Wedding
The traditional wedding ceremony of the Korean nationality in China is formed by the continuous integration and development of the Korean ancestors with the Han nationality and other minority nationalities in the long-term historical development. The wedding ceremony of the Korean nationality is divided into two parts: the "female marriage" and the "male marriage", which are usually held at the same time now. On the day of marriage, the groom accompanied by the bride's maid went to the bride's house to marry him. After the groom and his party arrived at the bride's house, their mother-in-law accepted the "letter of marriage". Then, the groom accepted the "big table" accompanied by the bride's family. Besides all kinds of delicacies, there are two essential things on the "big table". One is the whole chicken with red pepper or dates, the other is a bowl of rice with three eggs. Eggs are the food the groom must eat, but only two are allowed, and the other is left to the bride.
On June 7, 2008, Korean traditional wedding ceremony was approved by the State Council and listed in the second batch of national intangible cultural heritage list.
The Korean ancestors had long practiced "man-to-woman marriage", that is, the bridegroom held a wedding at the bride's home, lived at the bride's home for several years, and then led his wife and children back to their homes. During the Korean Dynasty (1392-1910), rulers, under the influence of Confucianism, believed that this marriage custom was a bad habit of "inversion of heaven and earth" and "reversion of Yang from yin". They strongly advocated the "intimate welcome" method of bringing the bride back to the bridegroom's home on the day of marriage according to Confucianism. However, due to the obstruction of customary forces, it is difficult to carry out, so it created a "half-friendly" way to compromise the inherent "male to female" way with the "friendly" way of China. In this way, the groom stays at the bride's house for only two days after the wedding, and leads the bride back to the bride's house on the third day. Semi-intimate marriage has become the main way of marriage for the Korean people in modern times. The traditional marriage means this way. Before the 1950s, the Korean people in China adopted two ways of "half-friendly" and "half-friendly", in which "half-friendly" was the main mode. After the founding of the People's Republic, it was unified as a "friendly" way.
Korean wedding ceremony, a very special place is the groom to accept the table. The big table is a special feast for the bride or groom when the Korean people hold a wedding. There are various kinds of food on the big table. The most striking thing is the boiled cock with red pepper in its mouth, which symbolizes the early birth of a noble son. At this time, the groom, accompanied by the best man and his wife's family, sat at the big table, drank three glasses of wine filled by the best man, and then had dinner. According to the Korean marriage custom, the bridegroom eats three eggs in his meal, which is based on good wishes for having children and a happy life. After the groom accepts the big table, the groom and the bride leave the bride's parents and return to the groom's home. So far, the performance in Times Square is all over.
The traditional ways of Korean marriage include three stages: proposing marriage, big ceremony and later ceremony.
Marriage proposals include checking the conjunction of palaces (comparing the eight characters of the birthdays of men and women), writing marriage books and Junji (fixing the date of marriage) and so on. The gifts include gifts from the bridegroom's house to the bride's house, such as gift boxes, geese-laying gifts, worship, bride's wedding ceremony, and the bridegroom's reception of big tables. The latter ceremony includes the bride's going to the bridegroom's house to receive a big table and the next day's meeting with her uncle and aunt.
The matchmaker first proposed marriage to both male and female families. If both families were satisfied, the male parent would send the "marriage invitation" to the female parent. After receiving the "letter of invitation", the woman's parents responded to the "letter of permission" by the matchmaker. When the male parent delivers the "marriage invitation" to the female parent, the "four pillars list" is attached. The so-called "four pillars" refers to the four items of "year, month, day and time" of a young man's birth. Women's parents check the "four pillars" of both men and women. If they think it is appropriate, they confirm the marriage contract. On the contrary, they cancel the marriage. As soon as the engagement is made, both men and women will have auspicious days, and they will be interested in "crown ceremony" and "dutiful ceremony". In the past, Korean young men wore braids and held ceremonies before they got married. They put braids on their heads and put on crowns to show their adulthood, which is called "crown ceremony". The so-called "courtesy" is also through a certain etiquette to the girl's hair braided into buns, hair braids on the fork.
The ceremony includes the groom's "first trip" and interest in the wedding process. The groom's temporary stay from home to the bride's house is called "first trip". On the wedding day, the groom wore a "veil cap band" and held a large folding fan or "umbrella" (a rectangular red cloth with sticks on both sides). The folding fan and umbrella are used to make faces. Ride to the woman's home for the wedding. Accompanied by the groom to the "guests", "Yanfu" and other people. "Shangbin" is held by a father or uncle. When you go to the bride's house, you should carry a "marriage letter", which contains clothes and a "marriage letter" for the bride. The groom and his party took a short rest after arriving at the temporary residence to prepare for the wedding. The wedding was held at the bride's house. First, "letter husband" submits "marriage letter" to the bride's family. The woman's wife picked up her skirt with both hands and took it into the house for the other women to watch the gifts. Then, the "Yanfu" presented the wooden geese wrapped in coloured cloth to the bride's family to express their loyal love. The groom stepped on the cloth and slowly stepped into the bride's yard. The bride's family put the geese on a cloth or a small table. The groom gently pushed it three times with a fan and then stood at the wedding table. At this time, the bride is supported by two "bridesmaids" and slowly walks out of the room, standing opposite the groom. The bride's dress on this day is to pull her head "big hair", wear a "cluster head", hang two or two wide "hairbands" on the hairpin, hang on both sides of her chest, and wear a "long dress". The bride and groom stand opposite each other across the wedding table, under the auspices of the master of ceremonies, to pay homage and salute. The so-called worship ceremony is a kneeling ceremony between the bride and groom. The bride and groom drink each other a glass of wine.
At the end of the wedding, the groom goes into the bridal room to accept the "big table" (wedding mat). Before going to the kang, first stand outside and push the wooden geese hard into the kang. On the "big table" are all kinds of delicacies, the most conspicuous one is a cock lying with red pepper in his mouth. After putting wine and food on the "big table", the bride's family first handed the groom the "list". The so-called "list" is a note with simple poems, requiring the groom to write poems and correct, in order to test the groom's wisdom and talent. If the groom and the couple are not right, they can also be "guests" and "guests". Before eating the dishes on the "big table", the groom first proposed to pick out some of each dish for his parents and close relatives, which is called "gift-giving package". After that, the groom and his companions had a "big table" meal together. In addition to the "big table", the groom should be given another table. There are three skinned cooked eggs in the bridegroom's bowl. The bridegroom can't eat all of them. One or two eggs must be left for the bride to eat. The same is true when the bride eats after the "table" at the groom's house.
When entering the cave at night, pick out 1-2 kinds of fruits and dishes on the "big table" and give them to the bride and groom for supper. After supper, the groom unlocks the bride's "cluster head", "big hair" and ribbon. Then, with both hands at the same time pinch out two candles, a total of pillow to sleep.
Hou Li includes "return" and "go back". After the bride's wedding and three days'stay, the groom returns to his home with the bride, which is called "home". At this time, the groom was still riding a horse while the bride was riding a sedan chair. The bride should bring some gifts for the bridegroom's parents and close relatives when she goes to the bridegroom's house for a "family dinner" the next day. The person accompanying the bride is called "Shangbin", usually the father or uncle of the bride. When the bride arrives at the bridegroom's house, she does not hold a wedding, but only accepts the "big table". The food on the "big table" should be brought back to his mother's home intact and dedicated to his parents and relatives. The next morning, the bride would go down to the kitchen to light the fire and cook to show her cooking skills. After dinner, the bride and groom's parents and other relatives sit on one side while the bride sits on the other. Under the guidance of a bridegroom's family, the bride toasted her father-in-law, mother-in-law and other relatives and presented gifts such as clothing and socks.
"Good-bye" is when the groom stays at home for three days and accompanies the bride back to visit his parents-in-law. At this time, the village boys to the groom "jail", the groom hang up, with sticks beating the groom's footboard, in order to beg for food and drink from the parents of the bride. After staying at the bride's house for 1-2 days, he returns with the bride to the bridegroom's house. So far, the marriage is completely over.
The Korean people attach great importance to the marriage of their children. First of all, they should propose marriage, which is equivalent to the engagement of the Han people. The Korean nationality in China pays great attention to etiquette. Wedding etiquette is often very tedious. When proposing marriage, the parents of both sides meet at the wife's home and express their opinions to each other. Finally, the marriage relationship is determined by both parents. Otherwise, no matter how good the relationship between young men and women is, it will not be recognized.
The Korean wedding banquet is exquisite. Chicken and fish are essential dishes to fill the "big table" with delicious dishes. One of the most prominent is the two whole chickens lying with red pepper in their mouths. In the past, red pepper in the mouth was the mascot of exorcism. Two chickens made a pair of them. Peanuts and chestnuts should be in the fruit tray, which means good. I hope that the bride and groom will have noble children early and be happy for a long time.
The best man's Bridesmaid
Korean bridesmaids of honor are different from Han people. The bridesmaids of honor must be unmarried men and women, while Korean people are different. The bridesmaids of honor must be married men and women, and preferably a happy couple after having children.
In Yanbian, the Korean wedding usually takes place in two stages: first at the bride's house, then at the groom's house. The so-called "bridegroom's wedding" is held in the bride's home, and the so-called "bride's wedding" is held in the bridegroom's home. The bridegroom's wedding ceremony should be in the order of laying down the goose, paying homage to the bridegroom, banquet and so on. The bride goes home alone after three days at the bride's house. Then the bride waits for the selected auspicious day to be welcomed to the bridegroom's house. The bride's house also sets up a ceremony hall for the bride. The next day, the bride and her husband's family recognize each other, give gifts and are invited to entertain, and the wedding ends.
Zhu Guangmin, born in July 1981, Korean nationality, graduated from Harbin Korean Normal School. He is currently working in Arong Banner Korean School, serving as secretary of the school league committee and language teacher. He can speak Korean and write beautiful Korean characters. He is good at Korean singing and dancing. His Korean songs have great influence in the local area and become a well-known Korean singer. At the same time, he is also an amateur wedding ceremonialist, making a positive contribution to the inheritance of Korean traditional wedding.